408-832-6172 Tomilu@sbcglobal.net

Originally written in 1987 this is a wonderful book by Susan Jeffers about fear. It was her desire to deal effectively with her own fear that lead her to study fear and write her dissertation on fear. Even though this book is almost 40 years old I have never found another quite like it. I have found that when my clients read it and try the exercises they make faster progress in therapy.

She discovered that everyone feels fear when they try something new and that the only way to get rid of the fear was to move forward and go through it.
Feeling the fear is actually a sign that you are growing.
The only way to feel better about yourself is to go out and do the thing you are afraid of. Actually pushing through the fear will create confidence in your ability to handle more situations.

Life will always present you with new challenges.  That is life’s part in this drama called life. Your part is deciding how you will handle the situations and opportunities life bring’s your way.

One of the choices that we have is our attitude about the things that happen to us.  Do we see the things that happen in our lives as problems or opportunities for growth?

Many things happen to us that are beyond our power to  control.  Sometimes the only freedom that we are left with is the freedom to choose what our response will be.  Our response can make all the difference in what kind of life we will live.

When Susan Jeffers first wrote her book it was turned down by several publishers.  The book lay in a drawer for 3 years.  Then one day she took it out of the drawer and set it to publishers again.  This time it was published.  Her life was changed by that decision!